Key insights

• ⬆️ Catch-up growth is observed in infants who missed out on nutrition during critical periods of growth.
• 🧠 The mind also has the ability for attachment and behavioral catch-up, leading to the formation of relationships and confidence.
• ❌ Self-doubt and negative beliefs can sabotage the mind's ability to catch up in life.
• 🔍 Research behind ABC shows ways to catch up and develop confidence and meaningful relationships.
• 🌱 Only a small amount of help (10-20%) is needed for exponential growth.
• 🔄 Change your social and physical environments to influence behavior and thinking.
• ⛑️ Seek help from various sources such as friends, therapists, or coaches.
• 🚫 Ego-based statements are self-sabotaging; overcoming self-perceived identity leads to growth.

Q&A

• How do beliefs about oneself impact catching up in life?

  Beliefs about oneself shape actions and future, leading to self-fulfilling prophecies. Ego-based statements are self-sabotaging, but overcoming self-perceived identity leads to growth. The last 10-20% of effort leads to significant growth, and getting a little help and changing one's environment and social circle can aid in catching up.

• What is the key to moving forward and catching up in life?

  Overcoming feelings of shame and self-doubt is key to moving forward. Emotions often control our logical reasoning, so managing and acknowledging emotions is crucial. It's important to watch out for 'I' statements that create self-limiting beliefs, as self-shame can lead to a belief that all efforts will fail.

• How can one improve their social and physical environments to catch up?

  One can change their social and physical environments to influence behavior and thinking, seek help from various sources such as friends, therapists, or coaches, and recognize and overcome emotional and mental barriers to catching up in life. Additionally, they can expand their social circle by using simple techniques to engage with new people like making eye contact, smiling, and introducing themselves.

• What does the science of catch-up (ABC) reveal?

  The research behind ABC shows ways to catch up and develop confidence, meaningful relationships, and safety despite a difficult past. It also highlights that the body and brain are evolutionarily designed to catch up after a period of struggle. Moreover, growth occurs in the last 10-20% of effort, and only a small amount of help (10-20%) is needed for exponential growth.

• What is catch-up growth?

  Catch-up growth is observed in infants who missed out on nutrition during critical periods of growth. Additionally, the mind has the ability for attachment and behavioral catch-up, leading to the formation of relationships and confidence. However, self-doubt and negative beliefs can sabotage the mind's ability to catch up in life.

• 00:00 You can absolutely catch up in life despite starting late. Catch-up growth is evident in infants who missed out on nutrition, and the mind also has the capacity for attachment and behavioral catch-up. The mind's ability to catch up can be sabotaged by self-doubt and negative beliefs.
• 04:04 The science of catch-up (ABC) shows that it's possible to develop confidence, feel safe, and build lasting relationships despite a difficult past. Growth occurs in the last 10-20% effort, and a small amount of help can lead to exponential growth. Help is needed for only a fraction of the journey.
• 08:22 If you're struggling, ask for help, change your environment, and expand your social circle by joining new groups and using simple techniques to engage with people.
• 12:16 Tips for improving social and physical environments, seeking help, and overcoming mental sabotage to catch up in life.
• 16:05 Overcoming feelings of shame and self-doubt is key to moving forward; emotions often control our logical reasoning; acknowledging and managing emotions is important; self-shame leads to a belief that all efforts will fail; watch out for 'I' statements that create self-limiting beliefs.
• 20:23 Beliefs about oneself shape actions and future, leading to self-fulfilling prophecies. Ego-based statements hold people back. Overcoming self-perceived identity leads to growth and catching up in life.