Key insights

• 💼 Men should understand the importance of putting women to work in relationships for more fulfilling connections.
• 💪 Investing in fitness, fashion, wealth, status, and humor can attract women.
• 🧠 Women's heightened anxiety and nurturing impulses are linked to their historical social role and evolutionary history.
• 🔑 Establishing the desired relationship dynamic early on is crucial.
• 📋 Asking a woman to do things early on helps gauge her interest and character.
• 🛡️ Women assuming responsibility in the relationship acts as a hedge against relational abandonment.

Q&A

• Why should women take on responsibility in a relationship?

  Women should take on responsibility in a relationship to demonstrate value, protect themselves from being used for sexual gratification, and act as a hedge against relational abandonment.

• How can you gauge a woman's interest and character early on in a relationship?

  Asking a woman to do the things you want her to do for you early on helps gauge her interest and character, revealing whether she is committed or has poor character or low interest.

• Why do men feel pressured to play a game of bait and switch in relationships?

  Men often feel pressured to play a game of bait and switch, hoping that caring and nurturing will lead to reciprocation, but it rarely works, emphasizing the importance of establishing the desired relationship dynamic early on.

• Why do women have a heightened anxiety response, and how does it relate to modern courtship?

  Women have a heightened anxiety response due to their historical role of caring for others, which can lead to unfulfilled nurturing impulses in modern courtship.

• How can men attract women?

  Men can attract women by investing in their fitness, fashion, wealth, status, and humor, as these qualities are appealing to women and contribute to a successful courtship.

• Why is it important for men to put women to work in relationships?

  Men should put women to work in relationships to establish a fulfilling connection and differentiate between genuine interest in supporting each other and one-sided relationships.

• 00:00 Men need to understand the importance of putting a woman to work in a relationship and how it can lead to more fulfilling connections. Most women are willing to provide value in a relationship if they genuinely want to be with the man. It's crucial for men to differentiate between women who are genuinely interested in supporting them and those who just want to be taken care of.
• 01:53 Men can attract women by investing in their own fitness, fashion, wealth, status, and humor. Women may feel the need to care for someone, contributing to anxiety disorders, as historically they were never alone.
• 04:06 Women have evolved to have a heightened anxiety response due to caring for those too dumb to know what to fear. Without someone to care for, they can go a little nutty. Modern courtship has lost sight of this reality, leading to unfulfilled nurturing impulses.
• 06:14 Men often feel they have to play a game of bait and switch with women, hoping that caring and nurturing will lead to reciprocation, but it rarely works. Instead, men should establish the desired relationship dynamic early on and ensure the woman is a good fit for that role.
• 08:13 If you want a woman who provides value in your life, put her to work early on to gauge her interest and character. Similar to a professional setting, a woman with poor character or low interest will balk at responsibilities, while those committed will see it as an opportunity.
• 10:27 Women should insinuate themselves into the economy of a relationship by taking on responsibility, as it demonstrates value and acts as a hedge against relational abandonment. Men shouldn't be afraid to ask women to do things for them, as it can reveal their true colors.