Key insights

• Sexual Relationships, Menopause, and Love

  • ♀️ Menopause can impact sexual desire and relationships
  • 👥 Body image changes can influence sexual confidence and attraction
  • 🔒 Monogamy requires effort to maintain sexual interest
  • 🔄 Open relationships require communication, boundaries, and effort
  • 💖 The concept of love and attraction can be reframed
  • 📝 Advice for improving sexual communication and openness

• Parenthood and Sexual Satisfaction

  • 🤱 Parenthood affects sexual satisfaction and requires navigating through different phases
  • 🚰 Habits and shared responsibilities impact sexual satisfaction
  • 🆘 Seeking help for sexual issues is beneficial and should not be delayed
  • 🌅 There is hope for a positive shift in understanding and addressing sexual issues
  • 🌐 Sex positivity is increasing in various aspects of society

• Sexual Expression and Dynamics

  • 🔍 Understanding and negotiating sexual desires and preferences with partners
  • 🌈 Importance of open-mindedness in relationships and exploring ways to meet sexual needs
  • ⚡ Arousal non-concordance and its impact on desire and arousal in relationships
  • 👨‍👩‍👧 Parenting and household dynamics impact sexual satisfaction and frequency of sex

• Physical Intimacy and Preferences

  • 🗓️ Scheduling physical intimacy with low pressure can help maintain desire in long-term relationships
  • 📣 Communication and understanding each other's sexual preferences are essential for a satisfying sex life
  • ❤️ Addressing issues related to initiation, communication, and discomfort with willingness and desire

• Desire and Attraction

  • 👪 Challenges of maintaining desire in long-term relationships and after having kids
  • 💏 Role of spontaneous and responsive desire in managing sexual satisfaction
  • 💞 Impact of familiarity and sexual currency on maintaining desire in a relationship

• Communication and Expectations

  • ⚖️ Expectations and pressure negatively impact sexual response and satisfaction
  • 💬 Lack of communication leads to influence of societal sexual scripts and difficulty expressing desires
  • 🗣️ Initiating conversations about sex is important for maintaining a satisfying and evolving sexual relationship

• Misconceptions and Challenges

  • 🤔 Society's views impact how sex is perceived, leading to dissatisfaction with sex lives
  • 📅 Frequency of sex is often misunderstood, with societal expectations differing from reality
  • 📵 The impact of distractions on intimacy and desire
  • 🧘‍♂️ Mindfulness and attention play crucial roles in sexual experiences
  • 😰 Worries and stress negatively affect sexual response and arousal

Q&A

• What are some insights on open relationships and sexual communication?

  The segment covers various aspects of sexual relationships, including sexual satisfaction, the impact of menopause, body image changes, monogamy, and open relationships. Dr. Karen Gurney offers insights on navigating open relationships, discussing sex, and reframing perceptions of love and connection.

• How does parenthood affect sexual satisfaction?

  The journey of parenthood affects sexual satisfaction. Sleep and sex are interconnected, habits and shared responsibilities impact sex, and seeking help for sexual issues is beneficial. Pets can also impact sex lives.

• Does the frequency of sex determine sexual satisfaction?

  The frequency of sex does not determine sexual satisfaction; communication is crucial in sexual relationships. Spontaneous desire differs between men and women in long-term relationships.

• What are some tips for addressing sexual issues in relationships?

  Understanding sexual desires and preferences, negotiating needs with partners, importance of open-mindedness in relationships, arousal non-concordance, and addressing issues related to initiation and desire.

• What is sexual currency and how does it impact relationships?

  Sexual currency involves the non-physical aspects of a sexual relationship like passionate kissing and flirting. Scheduling physical intimacy with low pressure can help maintain desire in long-term relationships. Communication and understanding each other's sexual preferences are essential for a satisfying sex life.

• What is important for maintaining desire in a relationship?

  Attraction and desire are crucial for maintaining a healthy sex life in a relationship, especially after having children. Creating a relationship context that supports triggering desire is key to maintaining sexual satisfaction.

• How can communication barriers affect sexual relationships?

  Expectations and pressure can negatively impact sexual response and satisfaction. The lack of communication about sex leads to the influence of societal sexual scripts, creating difficulties in expressing desires and needs.

• What role does mindfulness play in sexual experiences?

  Mindfulness and attention play crucial roles in sexual experiences. Worries and stress can negatively affect sexual response and arousal.

• How does societal perception impact sexual satisfaction?

  Society's views impact how sex is perceived, leading to dissatisfaction with sex lives. The frequency of sex is often misunderstood, with societal expectations differing from reality.

• What are some common misconceptions and challenges surrounding sex?

  Dr. Karen Gurney addresses the impact of society's views, the frequency of sex, and distractions on sexual experiences. She emphasizes the importance of attention, mindfulness, and addressing worries for better sexual experiences.

• 00:00 Dr. Karen Gurny, a clinical psychologist and psychosexologist, highlights the misconceptions and challenges surrounding sex, including the impact of society's views, frequency of sex, and distractions. She emphasizes the importance of attention, mindfulness, and addressing worries for better sexual experiences.
• 12:08 Expectations and pressure can negatively impact sexual response and satisfaction. The lack of communication about sex leads to the influence of societal sexual scripts, creating difficulties in expressing desires and needs. Overcoming communication barriers and initiating conversations about sex can lead to a more satisfying and evolving sexual relationship.
• 24:04 Attraction and desire are crucial for maintaining a healthy sex life in a relationship, especially after having children. Desire management involves understanding spontaneous and responsive desire. Creating a relationship context that supports triggering desire is key to maintaining sexual satisfaction.
• 36:45 Sexual currency involves the non-physical aspects of a sexual relationship like passionate kissing and flirting. Scheduling physical intimacy with low pressure can help maintain desire in long-term relationships. Communication and understanding each other's sexual preferences are essential for a satisfying sex life.
• 48:40 Understanding sexual desires and preferences, negotiating needs with partners, importance of open-mindedness in relationships, arousal non-concordance, and addressing issues related to initiation and desire.
• 01:00:44 The frequency of sex does not determine sexual satisfaction; communication is crucial in sexual relationships; spontaneous desire differs between men and women in long-term relationships; parenting and household dynamics impact sexual satisfaction.
• 01:11:57 The journey of parenthood affects sexual satisfaction; sleep and sex are interconnected; habits and shared responsibilities impact sex; seeking help for sexual issues is beneficial; pets can affect sex lives; there is hope for positive changes in understanding and addressing sexual issues.
• 01:24:04 The segment covers various aspects of sexual relationships, including sexual satisfaction, the impact of menopause, body image changes, monogamy, and open relationships. Dr. Karen Gurney offers insights on navigating open relationships, discussing sex, and reframing perceptions of love and connection. She also shares the worst and best advice she's received and offers advice for improving sexual communication.