Key insights

• ⚖️ Women can still get married after 30 despite a relative disadvantage
• 🔄 Adapting strategy and making effort is crucial
• 💪 Effort and hustle are essential to achieve goals
• 👀 Success for women in their 30s requires actively engaging the attention of the opposite sex
• ⚙️ Effort is necessary for both men and women to be attractive and have options with the opposite sex
• ⚓ There is a symmetry to the effort required between men and women based on age and societal expectations
• 🕵️‍♀️ Women historically initiated courtship indirectly for plausible deniability
• 🔄 Changing strategy can lead to success

Q&A

• Why is effort important in pursuing relationships?

  Effort is crucial for both men and women to succeed and overcome disadvantages in the dating game. Women should find modern ways to show interest, as men frequently do, and changing strategy can lead to success despite prevailing challenges.

• Are there exceptions to the challenges faced by men and women in the dating game?

  Yes, there are exceptions, such as 22-year-old men making seven figures and 38-year-old women receiving serious offers. Historically, women initiated courtship indirectly for plausible deniability, but the default mode for women is to act while they have the advantage, while men tend to wait for the advantage.

• What is the significance of age in the dating game?

  Women in their 20s can afford to wait due to their privileged position in the sexual marketplace, but those in their 30s need to change their strategy and actively engage the attention of the opposite sex. Similarly, the level of effort required to be attractive and have options is correlated with age for both men and women.

• Do men face challenges in relationships as they age?

  Yes, men are more likely to end up alone, and they are at a disadvantage in their 20s. While women may have to adopt a more aggressive approach in their 30s, effort and hustle are essential for both men and women to achieve their relationship goals.

• Is it true that women over 30 should not feel discouraged about finding a husband?

  Yes, most women over 30 end up in decent relationships, and age-related dating statistics should not be a cause for discouragement. Women can still get married after 30, but they may face a relative disadvantage and may need to adapt their strategy and make an effort to pursue what they want.

• 00:00 Women over 30 should not be pessimistic about finding a husband as most end up in decent relationships. Men are more likely to end up alone. Women should not feel discouraged by age-related dating statistics.
• 01:48 Women can still get married after 30 but may face a relative disadvantage. Adapting strategy and making effort is crucial. The game changes at 30!
• 03:55 Women in their 20s can afford to wait due to their privileged position in the sexual marketplace, but those in their 30s need to change their strategy and make an effort to pursue what they want. Success for women in their 30s requires actively engaging the attention of the opposite sex.
• 05:48 Women, like men, have to put in effort to be attractive and have options. The level of effort is correlated with age, with older women needing to work harder. The same applies to men.
• 07:51 Men and women face different challenges in the sexual marketplace, with some being exceptions. Women historically initiated courtship indirectly for plausible deniability.
• 10:00 Women should find modern ways to show interest; men do this all the time. Effort is needed to succeed, change strategy, and win despite disadvantages.